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EP – 54 I Don’t Want to Turn 3

Our conversation with Gramps Jeffrey

Our conversation is with Gramps Jeffrey. Gramps Jeffrey is a children’s book author and grandfather of six. Gramps looks at the world through the lens of what has changed and evolved since he was a kid.

We discussed his book, I Don’t Want to Turn 3, and what inspired him to write this exciting and entertaining book. We talk about how important it is to read to our children and grandchildren. Reading is not simply a way of bonding with them, but it has also been documented to increase a child’s listening skills, build a varied vocabulary, and lengthen their attention span.

Let us know in the comments below what your Ah-Ha or big takeaway was from this conversation.

Be sure to check out Gramps Jeffrey’s website (link listed below) and his book.

Remember to like and share this conversation with a friend. Sharing is the best way to help support our message of the importance of grandfathers in the lives of their families.

Links

Gramps Jeffrey – Website

Gramps Jeffrey’s email address is: grampsjeffrey@gmail.com

“I Don’t Want to Turn 3” – Online purchasing options

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EP – 45 The examples we set

My conversation with Frank Pomata

In this conversation, Frank Pomata, aka Baba, sits down with us and talks about the impact and relationship with his grandfathers. We first learn about Carl (Carmello) and Anthony (Grandpa Tony) and what these two very different people did with Frank growing up in Brooklyn, NY. Frank had the interesting experience of living upstairs from his Grandpa Carl.

With Grandpa Carl, Frank became his driving buddy and was exposed early on to what goes on in an office environment. Frank learned some of the basics of being in an office in this environment, such as answering a phone and taking messages properly. Frank also learned some of the basics of making an office environment work.

With Grandpa Tony, Frank learned that there was a large world outside of New York through reading Grandpa Tony’s National Geographic magazines. Grandpa Tony eventually gifted Frank his own subscription and cultivated an appreciation for learning that Frank still enjoys to this day. We get to hear some great stories about Grandpa Tony, including how he loved the music of Pete Fountain.

Frank also talks about his relationship with his grandson (8 years old) and the bond that they have developed over the years. We learn how Frank is intentionally working on taking an interest in his grandson by getting down on the floor and playing with him and even finding that his grandson is igniting a former passion of Franks; collecting Hot Wheels cars.

We talk about Frank’s attitudes about how grandfathers today can change and be more engaged with their grandchildren and family. At the end of our conversation, we talk about Frank’s article (a link is below) and how grandfathers can support their grandchildren and that nurturing is not the sole province of the grandmothers.

Once you have listened to this amazing episode, remember to subscribe and share this podcast with a friend.

Links

Click HERE for Frank’s LinkedIn Profile

Frank’s article: Some Thoughts on the Value of Grandfathers

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EP – 87 Stories With Grandpa

Our conversation with Josiah Fogle

Josiah Fogle has created children’s books to help his children experience the vital lessons that John Fogle instilled in him. Josiah admired his father and was influenced by him through spending years as a family in the Philippines as missionaries. Through writing about Grandpa John, Josiah has built a bridge between his father’s legacy and Josiah’s children, who are learning about their grandfather through actual family stories and memories and impactful children’s books.

We continue our discussion and dive into the world of writing and publishing for both children’s books and grown-up books. Josiah is a Sales Development Manager with the organization Self Publishing School. You will learn that one thing that sets Josiah apart from many other people working in the publishing game is that Josiah IS a published author.

In our conversation, Josiah educates us on the different types of publishing available today, from simple ebooks to traditional publishing. We discuss the pros and cons of each publishing method and how many successful authors started their journey by choosing the self-publishing route. Josiah also discusses the many services that Self Publishing School has to offer.

All this conversation about publishing and the different options available to authors today will hopefully motivate YOU to jump into the game to create the story that only YOU can tell.

Once you have finished listening to this episode, please remember to like and subscribe to the podcast. Josiah and I would also be excited if you were to share this conversation with a friend who would enjoy our chat and who would also get value in learning more about writing and publishing a book.

Remember to leave a short note in the comments section below about what part of this conversation inspired you. Josiah and I would love to hear from you and what your “Aha moment” was from our conversation.

Links

Click HERE to visit Josiah’s website, Stories With Grandpa. Be sure to check out the different books he has there. Maybe one of them would make an excellent present for your grandchild.

Click HERE to visit Josiah’s LinkedIn profile.

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EP – 86 Where Two Worlds Meet

Our conversation with Jerry Witkovsky and Deanna Shoss

This week we are joined by two passionate individuals whose goal is to build bridges of understanding and communication between Grandparents and Grandchildren. Jerry Witkovsky and Deanna Shoss join us to discuss their new book, Where Two Worlds Meet.

Jerry joins our conversation as a leader in developing organizations and programs that impact the lives of his community. Since his 1997 retirement, Jerry has focused his considerable energies on grandparenting facilitation—helping multigenerational families work (and play) together to create a rich family life. He has partnered with JCC and YMCA to create a writing prompt program serving over four hundred grandparents on three continents and a virtual improv program with UK’s Nursery Theatre. He currently spearheads many school-based programs designed to strengthen connections between grandparents and their teenagers.

Deanna Shoss is a marketer, writer, and interculturalist based in Chicago. As Founder and CEO of Intercultural Talk, Inc., Deanna inspires people to learn, create, and contribute across their lifespans. She takes an intergenerational approach that combines online communication platforms such as websites/blogs, social media, and video with tried and true practices such as partnership building, email marketing, and in-person events. Deanna writes for the National Diversity Council and is the Tech Columnist for Grand Magazine. She speaks Portuguese, Spanish, and French and is a certified group fitness instructor. Learn more at interculturaltalk.com.

In our conversation, we discussed what motivated Jerry to write his book and how he and Deanna became connected and are working hard to deliver this timely message of getting grandparents engaged with their grandchildren. We also discuss how grandparents can be a part of the solution in helping grandchildren through complex mental and emotional issues.

Where Two Worlds Meet is an enjoyable read full of fantastic tips and examples that will help you become more intentional and involved with your grandchildren, please follow the links above and below to learn more about the work that Jerry and Deanna are doing and to order your copy of Where Two Worlds Meet.

If you know someone who would enjoy hearing this conversation, please forward this podcast episode to them. Sharing episodes like this one is the best way to help others learn about Grandfathers’ critical role in their families lives. Please remember to ‘like’ and subscribe to the podcast if you haven’t done so already.

Links

Click HERE to go to the website for Where Two Worlds Meet

Click HERE to read the article, Why American Teens Are So Sad

Click HERE to visit Deanna’s company Intercultural Talk

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EP – 85 Volunteering and Mentoring

Our conversation with Ben Manny

Ben Manny is an engaged grandpa, AND he is an engaged volunteer. This week, I discuss how grandfathers can support their community but mainly the children and young adults in their community.

We start our conversation with Ben discussing how he is an engaged and supportive grandfather. Ben shares with us how he doesn’t let being a long way away from his grandchildren stop him from being the mentor and coach they need but always leaves plenty of room for fun and games.

Ben has been an active volunteer with youth and his community for years now. He has been a board member of SAGE (link below) since 2020. He has also taken advantage of his engineering background to be a state judge for a national youth robotics competition and then coach a neighborhood LEGO robotics team. We talk about how important it is that older men find ways to coach or mentor youth in different settings.

Check out the links below to the different groups that we discussed. You might find that one of these organizations would be a good fit for you to volunteer with.

Remember to like and subscribe to the podcast if you haven’t already done so. I would especially be honored if you would share this episode with a friend. Sharing the podcast is the best way to get the good word out about how we can build stronger relationships with our grandchildren and our community.

Links

Click HERE to learn more about First LEGO League.

Click HERE to explore all the cool things Encore.org does to bring generations together.

Click HERE to learn more about SAGE and how you might get involved with this organization.

Click HERE to check out Kerry Bryne’s Long Distance Grandparent website

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EP – 84 Priming the Pump

Our monthly one on one conversation

“Welcome back, my friends to the show that never ends. We’re so glad you could attend! Come inside! come inside!” – Emerson, Lake & Palmer.

I am happy to have a moment with you. I enjoy these one-on-one conversations, and I hope you find them valuable for your grandparenting journey.

This month, I want to discuss steps you can take to ‘prime the pump’ or, in other words, plan your next visit with your children and grandchildren. Some people will tell you that the only actual planning you should do on your stays (assuming you live out of town) is when you arrive and depart. They will say that should be enough planning and that the trip should be an organic experience.

I say that not having a plan is a recipe for miscommunication and missed opportunities for your adult children, grandchildren, and YOU.

I am not saying that you have to have every minute of your visit planned but what I am saying is that you need to have some plans for your trip, AND you need to build up some anticipation about your stay with the grandchildren.

Put yourself back into your early parenting days for a minute. How would you have liked to have your parents or in-laws show up at the house for a few days, a week, a month with no idea what they wanted to do or not do? Think about the level of stress that would manifest itself with so many unknowns. Do the grandparents want to have a big dinner at some point? Do they want to take the grandkids to the park or zoo? What days is all this going to happen? What about play dates? Times that I was going to work on the car? Painters coming to the house? There are a lot of unknown questions here AND a lot of potential stress.

Grandpa’s, we need to help make sure that our time with our children and grandchildren is as stress-free as possible so that EVERYONE can enjoy the time together.

Here are a few tips that I do and that I have found to help set expectations and reduce stress for those days when my wife and I visit our children and grandchildren.

Start communicating early and often about the expected arrival and departure dates until your travel dates are 100% locked in.

– If you are planning Grandpa/ grandchild activities that are more than an hour, start talking about the dates and times of those activities as early as possible. The parents and grandchildren have schedules that they will need to adjust for your fun activities.

– Ask the parents what activities they think the grandchildren would like. Children’s tastes, activity levels, and interests might have changed since your last visit.

– Use text messages or emails to write down the loose itinerary for everyone. Talking about the calendar AND seeing the calendar may trigger forgotten activities that the kids or grandkids had planned. “Measure twice cut once”

– Leave some blank or ‘zero days.’ Everyone needs some flexibility for last-minute plans and some “grandpa is pooped out” time. 🙂

– Start priming the pump with the grandkids early. This activity is age-dependent, but 30 days out is a good rule of thumb.

– Send video messages about the visit talking about the fun you will have with the grandchildren.

– Use snail mail to shoot a postcard talking about a fun activity. Maybe print out and send tickets to the Zoo, Waterpark, or something else that requires tickets or a pass with older kids.

Your list and planning activities may vary from mine, which is okay. The important thing is to recognize that some pre-planning and a lot of communication will reduce the natural stress that a visit from grandpa and grandma can produce. After all, we want every visit to be memorable for the good times and feelings and not hurt feelings or misunderstandings that can happen when we visit our children and grandchildren.

Be sure to like and subscribe to the podcast if you have not done so already. Also, please share this episode and podcast with a friend. Sharing is the best way to spread the information people need to grow and maintain relationships with their family and friends.

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EP – 83 Authorpreneur Central

Our conversation with Nathan Andersen

The conversation is with the co-founder of Authorpreneur Central, Nathan Andersen, aka Anders Roseberg. In this conversation, we jump into Nathan’s varied and exciting background. Nathan is a self-taught individual when creating children’s books and other writing genres.

Nathan talks about living in Taiwan and creating a story and book for his daughter. He discusses his experience with finding a way to print the book. Nathan was bit by the creativity bug and soon created the second and third book in his library.

We discuss the different options for publishing books, from the print-on-demand model (Amazon model) to traditional publishing. Nathan goes into detail about the pros and cons of each publishing method.

I ask Nathan to detail his company’s service offerings and how people can engage with him and his team. It is incredible how many options are available to those of us who have a story or book within us to get that story out onto the digital and or physical world.

If you have a children’s book, novella, collection of poetry, short story, or novel, I challenge you to get your first draft finished and then start the process of editing and finding the best publishing option that fits your needs. There is a path forward for you with so many options available to aspiring authors.

If you have more questions about publishing, options, and services, please reach out to Nathan and his team. Nathan will give you great advice regardless of whether you move forward with Authorpreneur Central.

If you found this conversation informative and helpful, please share this conversation with a friend. Also, if you have not yet subscribed to the podcast, please like and subscribe to the show on your favorite podcast hosting site.

Links

Click HERE to visit the Authorpreneur Central website

Click HERE to visit Anders Roseberg’s website

Click HERE to connect with Anders Roseberg on Facebook

Click HERE to check out Anders Roseberg on Instagram

Click HERE to follow Anders on Twitter

Here is a great email address to reach out directly to Nathan: andersrosebergbooks@gmail.com

Click on this link to sign up for the Long Distant Grandparent webinar on June 1 and 2: https://kerrybyrne.kartra.com/page/webinar

Click on this link to learn more about Peekabond.

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EP – 82 Grandparenting on Purpose

Our conversation with Winn Egan

Winn and Linda Egan developed and shared their views on grandparenting with their friends during a get-together. They discussed how grandparents could be active participants in their children’s and grandchildren’s lives. With more and more data being reported about issues around isolation, depression, and the like with teenagers, being an active grandparent is vital to helping grandchildren to become happy and healthy adults.

Winn talks with us about how he and his wife Linda took the basis for that gathering of friends and crafted those topics and experiences into the book, Grandparenting on Purpose. Join Winn and me as we talk about the fun ways grandparents can lead their families to grow connections that can withstand the occasional hurt feelings and miscommunication that can and do happen within families.

Winn also goes into great detail about how you can boost your interactions with the grandchildren to be ‘over the top.’ Winn talks about how these ‘over the top’ activities help create bonds that get the grandchildren looking forward to the next big family get-together or special event, like a special dinner before a school formal.

I am sure that by the end of listening to this conversation, you will be encouraged and inspired to look for ways to increase your level of connection with your grandchildren. That extra step forward in your relationship with your grandchildren motivates Winn to talk about and share his message of Grandparenting on Purpose.

Once you have enjoyed this conversation, please remember to like and subscribe to the podcast. Also, share this conversation with a friend who would enjoy hearing Winn’s stories about building strong family connections.

Links

Click HERE to view the Grandparenting on Purpose website

Click HERE to order your book, Grandparenting on Purpose from Amazon

Click HERE to connect with Winn on Facebook

Click HERE to connect with Winn on LinkedIn

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EP – 81 Grandpas as Coaches

A one-on-one with you

This episode is another one-on-one conversation with you and me. I open up the conversation with a quick trip report from my last trip to Virginia the week before Easter. I spent a lot of time with my grandson, who is almost four years old. I confess that spending multiple days with him wore me out physically and mentally.

It has been a long time since I chased toddlers around a playground and museum for hours at a time. I also forgot that three-and-a-half-year-olds don’t just play 20 questions; they play 120 questions and tend to compress those questions into a 25-minute car ride.

It was a great trip being around my grandson and granddaughters, but it was also nice to hand them off at the end of the day and have some time to recharge my batteries before the next round of adventures.

I also want to talk to you about grandfathers taking on the role of a coach in our relationship with our grandchildren. You might think of being a coach in other terms, such as teacher, mentor, guide, or another title. Use whatever title makes sense to you, but grandfathers ARE leaders AND motivators for our grandchildren and children.

We dive into what are some good characteristics of a good coach. Good coaches are made up of the following attributes:

Understands Life and Leads by Example

Sponge for Knowledge

Shares the Knowledge

Deeply knows the player (grandchild)

Energizes and Motivates Others

Good Listener

After listening to this episode, I hope that you think about the attributes of the good coaches and mentors you had in your life. Do you intentionally practice and take on the attribute of a coach when it comes to your relationship with your grandchildren?

Links

Click HERE to listen to my one-on-one show about being a cheerleader.

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EP – 80 The GaGa Sisterhood

Our conversation with Donne Davis

This week’s guest is Donne Davis. Donne started the GaGa Sisterhood group to bring inspiration, support, and tools to grandmothers worldwide. Donne became a grandmother in 2003, and for over nineteen years, she has been on a mission to connect with other grandmas and explore the evolving role of being a grandmother.

Donne and I start our conversation by discussing her experience in becoming a grandmother and its impact on her life. Donne explains that when the midwife held up her first granddaughter, Donne was GaGa for that grandchild and has been committed to her grandchildren ever since.

We also dive into how the role of being a grandmother and a grandfather has changed in a short time. Donne and I agree that loving and supporting our grandchildren starts with loving and supporting their parents. Both of us agree that the parents often get left out of the grandparent/ grandchild relationship equation.

Donne was motivated to write a book for grandmothers after realizing the relationship with the grandchild’s parents can present challenges in understanding each other’s perspectives. Her book is titled: “When Being a Grandma Isn’t So Grand: 4 Keys to L.O.V.E. your Grandchild’s Parents“.

Once you have listened to this conversation, please share it with a friend and especially a grandmother who would enjoy listening to this episode. Links to Donne’s website and different connections are listed below.

Be sure to leave Donne and me a comment below about what you enjoyed about this episode.

Links

Click HERE to be taken to Donne’s GaGa Sisterhood website. Donne sends out a monthly newsletter called the GaGazine, which you can subscribe to on her website’s homepage.

Click HERE to follow Donne on Instagram.

Click HERE to connect with Donne on Facebook.

Click HERE to connect with Donne on Twitter.

You can check out Donne on Pinterest by clicking HERE

Here is the link to my conversation with Kerry Byrne about her group, The Longdistance Grandparent, that Donne and I referenced.

Click HERE to learn more about the Moby Wrap

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EP – 79 Meet the Grandchildren Where They Are

Our conversation with Ed Gaffney

Our conversation this week is with Ed Gaffney. We talked with Ed a few episodes ago about RVing with grandchildren. (The link to that conversation is in the links below.) Ed shares with us how he and his wife Jeanne found out that they would be grandparents at a Billy Joel and Elton John concert.

Ed shares his experience with integrating his family with Jeanne’s to form a blended family. We learn through Ed’s stories how the children adapted to each other a bit faster than the other family members. We also learn how Ed and Jeanne stay connected with their grandchildren through on-site visits, Twitter, Facebook Messenger, and other technology tools.

Once you have listened to this conversation, share it with a friend who would enjoy listening to this episode and might need encouragement with their relationships.

Be sure to leave Ed and me a comment below about what you enjoyed about this episode.

Links

Click HERE to check out the episode with Ed and his wife, Jeanne

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EP – 78 Older Men’s Mental Health

Our conversation with Dr. Rob Whitley

Dr. Rob Whitley, Ph.D., discusses older men’s mental health issues. Rob Whitley is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychiatry, McGill University, and a Research Scientist at the Douglas Research Centre. He is currently a Fonds de recherche du Québec-Santé Senior Research Scholar and an Honorary Principal Fellow at the University of Melbourne. 

Rob and I discuss the different mental health challenges that older men can face in this conversation. We discuss several causes of mental health issues, such as the pain and breakdown of our bodies. Rob points out that as men age, we can lose our connections to friends, family, and other social points of connections like church and work.

Mental health is a broad phrase that can include many different types of behaviors. Much of the focus of the conversation is on depression, anxiety, and substance misuse. Many men often have an internal stigma about seeking help for mental health issues. Some internal stigmas center around the fear of loss of promotion or responsibilities at work. The stigmas can also manifest in the self-talk that older men internalize, such as, “I should be able to deal with this” or “I am weak if I need to reach out for help.”

As part of our discussion around how men need to feel comfortable discussing their challenges, Rob and I talk about the movement of Men’s Sheds. (See the link below) With Men’s Sheds, older men have a place to go to practice skills like wood or metal working along with building vital connections with other men. Rob also discusses how therapy offices and sessions are changing to meet men’s needs and operate more closely with how men communicate and interact.

After listening to this episode, be sure to like and subscribe to the podcast. The most important all is to share this conversation with anyone you know who is maybe struggling or is connected to someone who is struggling with any of the mental health topics discussed in this podcast.

Links

Click HERE to view Dr. Rob Whitley’s McGill University profile

Click HERE to learn more about Dr. Rob Whitley’s book, “Men’s Issues and Men’s Mental Health

Click HERE to read Dr. Rob Whitley’s latest article, “How to Talk With a Man About His Mental Health.”

Click HERE to discover Dr. Rob Whitley’s YouTube Channel, “Recovery Mental Health.”

Click HERE to view Dr. Rob Whitley’s articles published in Psychology Today.

Click HERE to learn more about Erik Erikson’s term Generativity. There is a lot of information about Erikson and Generativity.

Click HERE to read Robert D. Putnam’s article, “Bowling Alone,” published in 1995.

Click HERE to read about Emile Durkheim’s theory and types of suicide

Click HERE to learn more about the U.S. Men’s Shed Association

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