EP – 87 Stories With Grandpa

Our conversation with Josiah Fogle

Josiah Fogle has created children’s books to help his children experience the vital lessons that John Fogle instilled in him. Josiah admired his father and was influenced by him through spending years as a family in the Philippines as missionaries. Through writing about Grandpa John, Josiah has built a bridge between his father’s legacy and Josiah’s children, who are learning about their grandfather through actual family stories and memories and impactful children’s books.

We continue our discussion and dive into the world of writing and publishing for both children’s books and grown-up books. Josiah is a Sales Development Manager with the organization Self Publishing School. You will learn that one thing that sets Josiah apart from many other people working in the publishing game is that Josiah IS a published author.

In our conversation, Josiah educates us on the different types of publishing available today, from simple ebooks to traditional publishing. We discuss the pros and cons of each publishing method and how many successful authors started their journey by choosing the self-publishing route. Josiah also discusses the many services that Self Publishing School has to offer.

All this conversation about publishing and the different options available to authors today will hopefully motivate YOU to jump into the game to create the story that only YOU can tell.

Once you have finished listening to this episode, please remember to like and subscribe to the podcast. Josiah and I would also be excited if you were to share this conversation with a friend who would enjoy our chat and who would also get value in learning more about writing and publishing a book.

Remember to leave a short note in the comments section below about what part of this conversation inspired you. Josiah and I would love to hear from you and what your “Aha moment” was from our conversation.

Links

Click HERE to visit Josiah’s website, Stories With Grandpa. Be sure to check out the different books he has there. Maybe one of them would make an excellent present for your grandchild.

Click HERE to visit Josiah’s LinkedIn profile.

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EP – 84 Priming the Pump

Our monthly one on one conversation

“Welcome back, my friends to the show that never ends. We’re so glad you could attend! Come inside! come inside!” – Emerson, Lake & Palmer.

I am happy to have a moment with you. I enjoy these one-on-one conversations, and I hope you find them valuable for your grandparenting journey.

This month, I want to discuss steps you can take to ‘prime the pump’ or, in other words, plan your next visit with your children and grandchildren. Some people will tell you that the only actual planning you should do on your stays (assuming you live out of town) is when you arrive and depart. They will say that should be enough planning and that the trip should be an organic experience.

I say that not having a plan is a recipe for miscommunication and missed opportunities for your adult children, grandchildren, and YOU.

I am not saying that you have to have every minute of your visit planned but what I am saying is that you need to have some plans for your trip, AND you need to build up some anticipation about your stay with the grandchildren.

Put yourself back into your early parenting days for a minute. How would you have liked to have your parents or in-laws show up at the house for a few days, a week, a month with no idea what they wanted to do or not do? Think about the level of stress that would manifest itself with so many unknowns. Do the grandparents want to have a big dinner at some point? Do they want to take the grandkids to the park or zoo? What days is all this going to happen? What about play dates? Times that I was going to work on the car? Painters coming to the house? There are a lot of unknown questions here AND a lot of potential stress.

Grandpa’s, we need to help make sure that our time with our children and grandchildren is as stress-free as possible so that EVERYONE can enjoy the time together.

Here are a few tips that I do and that I have found to help set expectations and reduce stress for those days when my wife and I visit our children and grandchildren.

Start communicating early and often about the expected arrival and departure dates until your travel dates are 100% locked in.

– If you are planning Grandpa/ grandchild activities that are more than an hour, start talking about the dates and times of those activities as early as possible. The parents and grandchildren have schedules that they will need to adjust for your fun activities.

– Ask the parents what activities they think the grandchildren would like. Children’s tastes, activity levels, and interests might have changed since your last visit.

– Use text messages or emails to write down the loose itinerary for everyone. Talking about the calendar AND seeing the calendar may trigger forgotten activities that the kids or grandkids had planned. “Measure twice cut once”

– Leave some blank or ‘zero days.’ Everyone needs some flexibility for last-minute plans and some “grandpa is pooped out” time. 🙂

– Start priming the pump with the grandkids early. This activity is age-dependent, but 30 days out is a good rule of thumb.

– Send video messages about the visit talking about the fun you will have with the grandchildren.

– Use snail mail to shoot a postcard talking about a fun activity. Maybe print out and send tickets to the Zoo, Waterpark, or something else that requires tickets or a pass with older kids.

Your list and planning activities may vary from mine, which is okay. The important thing is to recognize that some pre-planning and a lot of communication will reduce the natural stress that a visit from grandpa and grandma can produce. After all, we want every visit to be memorable for the good times and feelings and not hurt feelings or misunderstandings that can happen when we visit our children and grandchildren.

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EP – 82 Grandparenting on Purpose

Our conversation with Winn Egan

Winn and Linda Egan developed and shared their views on grandparenting with their friends during a get-together. They discussed how grandparents could be active participants in their children’s and grandchildren’s lives. With more and more data being reported about issues around isolation, depression, and the like with teenagers, being an active grandparent is vital to helping grandchildren to become happy and healthy adults.

Winn talks with us about how he and his wife Linda took the basis for that gathering of friends and crafted those topics and experiences into the book, Grandparenting on Purpose. Join Winn and me as we talk about the fun ways grandparents can lead their families to grow connections that can withstand the occasional hurt feelings and miscommunication that can and do happen within families.

Winn also goes into great detail about how you can boost your interactions with the grandchildren to be ‘over the top.’ Winn talks about how these ‘over the top’ activities help create bonds that get the grandchildren looking forward to the next big family get-together or special event, like a special dinner before a school formal.

I am sure that by the end of listening to this conversation, you will be encouraged and inspired to look for ways to increase your level of connection with your grandchildren. That extra step forward in your relationship with your grandchildren motivates Winn to talk about and share his message of Grandparenting on Purpose.

Once you have enjoyed this conversation, please remember to like and subscribe to the podcast. Also, share this conversation with a friend who would enjoy hearing Winn’s stories about building strong family connections.

Links

Click HERE to view the Grandparenting on Purpose website

Click HERE to order your book, Grandparenting on Purpose from Amazon

Click HERE to connect with Winn on Facebook

Click HERE to connect with Winn on LinkedIn

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EP – 81 Grandpas as Coaches

A one-on-one with you

This episode is another one-on-one conversation with you and me. I open up the conversation with a quick trip report from my last trip to Virginia the week before Easter. I spent a lot of time with my grandson, who is almost four years old. I confess that spending multiple days with him wore me out physically and mentally.

It has been a long time since I chased toddlers around a playground and museum for hours at a time. I also forgot that three-and-a-half-year-olds don’t just play 20 questions; they play 120 questions and tend to compress those questions into a 25-minute car ride.

It was a great trip being around my grandson and granddaughters, but it was also nice to hand them off at the end of the day and have some time to recharge my batteries before the next round of adventures.

I also want to talk to you about grandfathers taking on the role of a coach in our relationship with our grandchildren. You might think of being a coach in other terms, such as teacher, mentor, guide, or another title. Use whatever title makes sense to you, but grandfathers ARE leaders AND motivators for our grandchildren and children.

We dive into what are some good characteristics of a good coach. Good coaches are made up of the following attributes:

Understands Life and Leads by Example

Sponge for Knowledge

Shares the Knowledge

Deeply knows the player (grandchild)

Energizes and Motivates Others

Good Listener

After listening to this episode, I hope that you think about the attributes of the good coaches and mentors you had in your life. Do you intentionally practice and take on the attribute of a coach when it comes to your relationship with your grandchildren?

Links

Click HERE to listen to my one-on-one show about being a cheerleader.

Peekabond

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EP – 80 The GaGa Sisterhood

Our conversation with Donne Davis

This week’s guest is Donne Davis. Donne started the GaGa Sisterhood group to bring inspiration, support, and tools to grandmothers worldwide. Donne became a grandmother in 2003, and for over nineteen years, she has been on a mission to connect with other grandmas and explore the evolving role of being a grandmother.

Donne and I start our conversation by discussing her experience in becoming a grandmother and its impact on her life. Donne explains that when the midwife held up her first granddaughter, Donne was GaGa for that grandchild and has been committed to her grandchildren ever since.

We also dive into how the role of being a grandmother and a grandfather has changed in a short time. Donne and I agree that loving and supporting our grandchildren starts with loving and supporting their parents. Both of us agree that the parents often get left out of the grandparent/ grandchild relationship equation.

Donne was motivated to write a book for grandmothers after realizing the relationship with the grandchild’s parents can present challenges in understanding each other’s perspectives. Her book is titled: “When Being a Grandma Isn’t So Grand: 4 Keys to L.O.V.E. your Grandchild’s Parents“.

Once you have listened to this conversation, please share it with a friend and especially a grandmother who would enjoy listening to this episode. Links to Donne’s website and different connections are listed below.

Be sure to leave Donne and me a comment below about what you enjoyed about this episode.

Links

Click HERE to be taken to Donne’s GaGa Sisterhood website. Donne sends out a monthly newsletter called the GaGazine, which you can subscribe to on her website’s homepage.

Click HERE to follow Donne on Instagram.

Click HERE to connect with Donne on Facebook.

Click HERE to connect with Donne on Twitter.

You can check out Donne on Pinterest by clicking HERE

Here is the link to my conversation with Kerry Byrne about her group, The Longdistance Grandparent, that Donne and I referenced.

Click HERE to learn more about the Moby Wrap

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EP – 76 Being a Cheerleader

Our One on One

This episode is a chance for you and me to catch up. It has been a month or so since we last spoke. In this conversation, I talk about the critical role of being a grandfather who is a cheerleader for their grandchild.

I review the different ages of development and the various ways that grandfathers can be intentional about encouraging and cheering on grandchildren. Grandchildren at different ages need different types of encouragement.

As former guest Richard Eyre says, “Kids thrive, flourish, and blossom in the light of the thoughtful, specific, sincere compliments, particularly from grandfathers!” I couldn’t agree more. Grandfathers add that extra spark to a grandchild’s life when given a compliment and encouragement to do well at tasks they attempt.

I believe, like so many of our guests and experts, that grandfathers can act a bit like a seawall where our actions and words can break up some of the negativity that comes at our grandchildren. How a grandfather encourages and cheers on their grandchildren must evolve to meet the grandchildren’s needs. Our cheerleading must also be honest and provide truthful feedback. As the grandchildren grow, they are looking for mentors, like grandfathers, to encourage them and help them improve.

How are you a cheerleader for your grandchildren? How are you showing them that you are 100% on their side? Leave me a comment below and share your experience with being a cheerleader.

Links

Click HERE to enjoy our conversation with Richard Eyre

Click HERE to enjoy our conversation with Frank Sinclair

Peekabond

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EP – 71 Building Love and Affection Over Distances

Our one on one conversation

This week, we catch up one-on-one to discuss how we can build up love and affection with grandchildren who live away from us. The basis for this conversation comes from a guest blog that I wrote for Peekabond. Peekabond is a new company building an application to assist people with building and maintaining long-distance relationships with young ones.

In this conversation, I discuss the need to have a plan for communicating and sharing communications with grandchildren. We then discuss four ways to build up and strengthen those long-distance relationships. The four areas are:

  1. Send fun pictures and videos
  2. Video chats when you can (Peekabond can help with this item!)
  3. Virtual playtime
  4. Snail mail

We live in an age where we can take full advantage of voice and video to communicate to those young ones that we hold dear to us. By taking a few intentional steps and making plans with their parents about how and when to share with children, we can build up relationships where those children can TRULY KNOW US compared to us being remote but loving strangers.

To read more on how you can build Love and Affection with Grandchildren at a distance, please check out my guest blog and be sure to check out Peekabond.

Click HERE to read my guest blog

Click HERE to check out Peekabond

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EP – 67 Making Appreciation a Priority

Our one on one conversation about the importance of Appreciation

Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us well – Voltaire

This is another one on one conversation with just me and you. We discuss the importance of helping grandchildren learn how to show appreciation in our discussion of how to show appreciation to their family, friends, and others. To me, Appreciation is a deeper form of giving thanks.

I suggest that being Thankful and expressing Thanks is undoubtedly a critical expression. We need to help moms and dads when they are teaching little ones basic manners and social interactions. The next level of expressing thanks is by showing or expressing gratitude. To me, being Grateful is a deeper level of being thankful. Gratitude is defined as “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return Kindness.”

Appreciation is defined as “Recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.” I believe this is why we have traditionally seen public displays of appreciation for heroic acts in the public space. Think about medals, honors, monetary awards, etc. I think that grandparents can help grandchildren and others express more profound thanks through appreciation.

There are at least three ways that grandfathers can help grandchildren learn to express appreciation. The first is by modeling how to verbally show appreciation to someone by using the word “Appreciate” when thanking someone for service. The second way we can model showing appreciation is by having the grandchildren see us, or better yet, help us write out notes of appreciation. Both of these ways will help teach the grandchildren without lecturing. Remember, most young people learn best from seeing compared to being told.

The third way to help grandchildren learn to express appreciation is to be looking for opportunities to prompt them to express appreciation. Helping a young person express appreciation could be as simple as coaching them to use “appreciate” instead of “thanks.” It could also be making sure that they are taking note when giving appreciation about what they are appreciative for. For example, you could prompt a young person to let a store manager know that they appreciate the manager making an exception to allowing them to use the store’s restroom even though the bathroom is not normally open to the public.

While helping to teach a young person to say thank you, it is just as important to teach them how to express gratitude and appreciation as deeper forms of thanks.

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EP – 63 Priorities and Connections

Our conversation with Roland Thompson

Roland Thompson sits down with us to talk about the importance of connections with our grandchildren and family. Roland is currently working on two books and launching his foundation, Heart of the Fathers. We kick off our conversation, discussing Roland’s reaction to the news that he would be a grandfather while still having children at home and adopting another young child.

Roland is passionate about doing what he can to stress the importance of building connections to grandchildren and the rising generation as a whole. With threats such as teen suicide, pregnancy, and runaways impacting young people, Roland believes that connecting and being part of the group of influencers is how grandparents can help battle these risks to our youth.

The major influencers on a young person’s life, according to Roland, are:

  1. Parents
  2. Grandparents
  3. Peers
  4. Teachers, coaches, etc.

Be sure to share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the podcast if you have not done so yet.

Links

Click HERE to watch Roland and one of his sons perform a medley of Old Man / Cat’s in the Cradle.

Click HERE to be taken to Roland’s Heart of the Fathers Facebook group

Click HERE to be taken to The Long Distance Grandparent

Click HERE for Imagine Dragons (band)

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EP – 62 Leave Nothing Unsaid

Our conversation with Jody Noland

Jody Noland joins us for this week’s conversation. I met Jody at Kent Julian’s Paid to Speak conference in September 2021. Jody is passionate about discussing the importance and intimacy of letter and note writing. Written letters and notes can be just one way that grandfathers can connect and encourage their grandchildren.

As an author, speaker, and coach, Jody Noland brings an infectious passion for writing words of encouragement. Her greatest joy comes from helping others leave nothing unsaid to the essential people in their lives.

In our conversation, you will learn firsthand the impact of writing a letter or a card on someone. Jody explains the impactful yet straightforward steps to writing a note that you need to know you see and appreciate. The process of writing an impactful letter is simple and can be broken down into three parts:

  1. Express your feelings for the individual.
  2. Highlight what is unique and special about the person. Affirm their most outstanding character qualities. Use a word picture, if possible, to illustrate.
  3. Describe your hopes, prayers, dreams for the recipient.

Jody has many valuable tools that you can find on her website to help get you started in writing meaningful letters and cards.

Once you have listened to this episode, please remember to share it with someone who would appreciate hearing about grandfathers’ vital role in the family.

Links

Click HERE to be taken to the Leave Nothing Unsaid website.

Click HERE to learn more about Jody.

Click HERE to be taken to Jody’s Facebook page. (Be sure to click on the “Follow” button to be kept up to date about what Jody is up to.)

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