EP – 62 Leave Nothing Unsaid

Our conversation with Jody Noland

Jody Noland joins us for this week’s conversation. I met Jody at Kent Julian’s Paid to Speak conference in September 2021. Jody is passionate about discussing the importance and intimacy of letter and note writing. Written letters and notes can be just one way that grandfathers can connect and encourage their grandchildren.

As an author, speaker, and coach, Jody Noland brings an infectious passion for writing words of encouragement. Her greatest joy comes from helping others leave nothing unsaid to the essential people in their lives.

In our conversation, you will learn firsthand the impact of writing a letter or a card on someone. Jody explains the impactful yet straightforward steps to writing a note that you need to know you see and appreciate. The process of writing an impactful letter is simple and can be broken down into three parts:

  1. Express your feelings for the individual.
  2. Highlight what is unique and special about the person. Affirm their most outstanding character qualities. Use a word picture, if possible, to illustrate.
  3. Describe your hopes, prayers, dreams for the recipient.

Jody has many valuable tools that you can find on her website to help get you started in writing meaningful letters and cards.

Once you have listened to this episode, please remember to share it with someone who would appreciate hearing about grandfathers’ vital role in the family.

Links

Click HERE to be taken to the Leave Nothing Unsaid website.

Click HERE to learn more about Jody.

Click HERE to be taken to Jody’s Facebook page. (Be sure to click on the “Follow” button to be kept up to date about what Jody is up to.)

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EP – 53 More than Grand

Our conversation with Dee Dee Moore

This week, we talk with DeeDee Moore. DeeDee was in a similar spot as I was when she found out that she was going to be a grandmother. That spot was that This week, we talked with DeeDee Moore. DeeDee was in a similar spot as I was when she found out that she would be a grandmother. That spot was that there were some articles, podcasts, and magazines, but nothing designed to help grandmas or grandpas understand their new roles.

Taking what she had experienced as a mom, elementary school office lady, and years as a communications consultant Dee Dee started More Than Grand. More Than Grand is dedicated to letting parents know how important the role of being a grandparent is in the lives of the grandchildren and grown children.

You are sure to enjoy this conversation, so lace up those shoes if you are going for a walk or pull up a chair if you are taking a break from your busy day and join DeeDee and me for a fun discussion.

After you listen to this conversation, be sure to share it with a friend.

Links

More Than Grand – DeeDee’s website and community

New Grandparent Essentials – One of the resources that DeeDee talked about

About DeeDee – The about page for More Than Grand and DeeDee

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EP – 51 Talking about Mental Health with Our Grandchildren

Our conversation with Dr. Gene Beresin, MD, MA

Our guest is Dr. Gene Beresin. Gene is a great guy and is working hard with the devoted staff of The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston. According to the center’s about page, The Clay Center “…is a free, practical, online educational resource dedicated to promoting and supporting the mental, emotional, and behavioral well-being of children, teens, and young adults.”

I knew that Gene would be the perfect guest to talk about how grandparents can be part of helping grandchildren through emotional and mental health issues. In this conversation, we talk about the importance of building connections with our grandchildren. If problems arise, they and their parents feel comfortable including us in the difficult discussions around emotional health issues.

We discuss how being open with our emotional challenges can lessen the awkwardness and shame that children and others can feel when dealing with mental health issues. Gene and I also talk about the recent revelations from gymnast Simone Biles about withdrawing from the Uneven Bars and Vault in the 2021 Summer Olympics. Simone started to not feel like she was mentally able to compete and was dealing with a phenomenon known as the “twisties.” We both agree that having public discussions about mental health can and should go a long way in helping our grandchildren. We believe that the grandchildren need to know that they are not alone when they are experiencing challenges themselves and that hopefully, they will feel safe enough to talk to someone, including their grandparents.

Gene and I also talk about the grandfather’s role and how we, as grandfathers, are the keepers of the family narratives. Grandfathers offer a profound bridge to the past that can inspire and entertain our grandchildren. We often hold a hundred years or more of family history in our memories from our discussions with our grandparents.

You will be sure to enjoy this conversation. When you finish listening to Gene and me, be sure to check out the links below and leave us a comment about your big takeaway from our conversation.

Helpful Links

The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds

Gene Beresin, MD, MA – About Page

The Value of Being a Grandparent: 7 Ways to Support Your Family’s Emotional Health – A great article written by Gene

Shrinking It Down: Mental Health Made Simple – The Clay Center’s Podcast (They will be starting season 5 very soon, be sure to check out their podcast!)

Sara Rattingan – Super Star Communication Specialist who helped to get Gene and me together. Thanks, Sara!

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EP – 32 Returning Time

My conversation with Lauren Huff

Lauren Huff is returning time with her grandparents by showing curiosity and interest in their varied and exceptional lives. Lauren is a writer and businesswoman from the California Central Valley. She was fortunate that her grandparents, for the most part, lived close by, which resulted in a close and meaningful relationship. Lauren and I met in Dan Miller’s 48days Eagles community (see link below).

We get into the podcast by finding out about Lauren’s Papa, whose family immigrated from Sicily. We dive into Papa’s interest in history and how his family immigrated from Sicily into New Orleans and migrated to California. His family’s experience is similar to our past guest, Vinnie Tortorich’s family (Click HERE to be taken to Vinnie’s conversation). Lauren talks about how Papa’s stories would not change, but he adjusted the details based on her age and level of understanding.

Lauren also talks about her Grandpa Jerry and his woodworking shop, his love for ‘dad jokes,’ and how she spent a lot of time with him and her grandma, especially around the holidays while Lauren’s parents worked and she was out of school. We hear a funny story about how Lauren acted up as a young girl and then didn’t know how to react when her Grandpa was gently trying to discipline her.

Through all the time and effort that Lauren’s grandparents have poured into her, Lauren has developed the podcast, and blog centered on capturing her grandparent’s experiences. Lauren’s project is titled Returning Time. (See the link below) As I mentioned, the purpose behind Returning Time is to develop a family history that can be shared with other people regardless if they are grandparents or granddaughters, or grandsons. These stories are powerful and interesting conversations that bridge the gaps between generational experiences.

Links:

https://www.returningtime.com/

48 Days – Dan Miller

General Rupertus Part 1

General Rupertus Part 2

Vinnie’s conversation

EP – 27 Encouraging your grandchild’s design

My conversation with Frank Sinclair

Encouraging his grandchildren’s innate design is what Frank Sinclair is all about. Frank is one cool grandpa and shares his insights into encouraging and leading his grandchildren with love and respect.

I was lucky to meet Frank through our mutual friend James Devine. After talking with James, he said that Frank had to be a guest and share his infectious personality and experiences with being a cool grandpa.

Frank takes his hard-won life lessons and his design to build others up into all aspects of his life, from raising children to influencing his grandchildren seriously. By seriously, I mean seriously with love, fun, and tolerance. Like so many of us, Frank has had struggles and has had to push through and grow from those struggles. These triumphs have lead Frank to believe that we all have a God-given design that needs to be encouraged to come out and shine.

Frank has grandchildren in the full spectrum of life. Grandchildren are excelling in college, and some grandchildren are toddlers, and a grandchild is on the way. You can easily tell that slowing down and taking it easy is not in Frank’s vocabulary. Through the richness of his experiences, we learn what it takes to impress our grandchildren with a strong work ethic, a strong sense of self, and how to love themselves, their family, and their community.

One of the many nuggets of wisdom that Frank shares with us is how it is important that grandparents and grandfathers, in particular, must respect the boundaries of their children. Frank believes that it is vital that grandchildren know that their grandparents respect their parent’s boundaries and goals for the family.

There are so many good insights and advice from Frank that I know you will come away from this conversation richer and with ideas of your own on how you can encourage your grandchildren, children, and those in close relationships to you to discover and then follow their personal design.

Once you have listened to this conversation, come back and leave me a comment about your own “ah-ha moment.”

Dream Again LLC – Frank’s coaching website

Frank’s Facebook Page

James Devine’s conversation with me on The Cool Grandpa Podcast