Our conversation with Rebecca Fraser-Thill
Rebecca Fraser-Thill joins us to talk about grandfathers, multi-generational relationships, and the importance of traditions within the family. We are introduced to Rebecca’s grandfather, Raymond Green, who lived about a half-hour from Rebecca. Although Rebecca talks about having a stronger bond with her grandmother, Raymond played an essential role in her life. They both enjoyed feeding the birds, spending the night at Grandma’s and Grandpa’s house, and being silly together.
We then talk about Rebecca’s relationship between her children and her father. Rebecca shares how her daughter pulls out characteristics of her father that he usually does not let out so much. Rebecca’s son and her father share many characteristic traits, such as becoming very focused on technical and engineering challenges.
Towards the end of our conversation, Rebecca and I discuss the role of traditions within the family. Some of the many benefits that family traditions have are:
- A sense of belonging
- Creating and re-enforcing identity
- Creates stability and expectations within the family
- Develops positive emotions among the participants
- It is useful in creating multi-generational memories and bonds
Click HERE to visit Rebecca’s website and learn more about her.
Click HERE to read Rebecca’s article, “How Family Traditions Build Stronger Bonds..”
Click HERE for the book we discussed, “In Good Faith: Secular Parenting in a Religious World.”
Our conversation about the importance of traditions and rituals with grandkids
This week’s episode is another conversation just between the two of us. In this conversation, we talk about the importance of traditions and rituals. We can use traditions and rituals to create stronger family bonds and bonds between grandfathers and grandchildren. Rituals are those details that are part of traditions. An example of a ritual is that grandma and the grandchildren ALWAYS work together to bake an apple pie for Thanksgiving dessert.
No matter your traditions and rituals in your family, be aware that these activities are essential to the grandchildren and the entire family. Grandchildren will learn about their family’s history and values through what you do with your traditions and rituals.
My conversation with Lauren Huff
Lauren Huff is returning time with her grandparents by showing curiosity and interest in their varied and exceptional lives. Lauren is a writer and businesswoman from the California Central Valley. She was fortunate that her grandparents, for the most part, lived close by, which resulted in a close and meaningful relationship. Lauren and I met in Dan Miller’s 48days Eagles community (see link below).
We get into the podcast by finding out about Lauren’s Papa, whose family immigrated from Sicily. We dive into Papa’s interest in history and how his family immigrated from Sicily into New Orleans and migrated to California. His family’s experience is similar to our past guest, Vinnie Tortorich’s family (Click HERE to be taken to Vinnie’s conversation). Lauren talks about how Papa’s stories would not change, but he adjusted the details based on her age and level of understanding.
Lauren also talks about her Grandpa Jerry and his woodworking shop, his love for ‘dad jokes,’ and how she spent a lot of time with him and her grandma, especially around the holidays while Lauren’s parents worked and she was out of school. We hear a funny story about how Lauren acted up as a young girl and then didn’t know how to react when her Grandpa was gently trying to discipline her.
Through all the time and effort that Lauren’s grandparents have poured into her, Lauren has developed the podcast, and blog centered on capturing her grandparent’s experiences. Lauren’s project is titled Returning Time. (See the link below) As I mentioned, the purpose behind Returning Time is to develop a family history that can be shared with other people regardless if they are grandparents or granddaughters, or grandsons. These stories are powerful and interesting conversations that bridge the gaps between generational experiences.
48 Days – Dan Miller
General Rupertus Part 1
General Rupertus Part 2
My conversation with Alexis Wynne
In this conversation, Alexis helps us understand the importance of growing with your grandchildren. We mean by this, and what Alexis helps to explain is that as our grandchildren grow and develop, it is important to recognize them at each development stage. This may seem like a “no duh” idea, but as parents and grandparents, it can be tricky to know when to adjust the relationship and how we interact with our grandchildren.
As much as we want to keep hanging on to those grandbabies, they eventually become teenagers (smelly and full of attitude) and then young adults. The expectations and interactions that we have with them at these life stages will impact our relationship with our grandchildren. Alexis shares how her cool grandpa adjusted the relationship to treat her as a growing young woman and not a little kid.
Alexis also shares the important traditions that her grandfather headed up while she was young and living in California. We learn how camping in the summer and progressive Christmas dinners made for loving and lasting memories.
We also learn that Alexis had a grandfather who was not so close to the family but made an effort to be present at birthdays and occasionally stop by for pie. These little gestures and the acts of showing that he wanted to be involved in his grandchildren’s lives laid a foundation for a growing relationship in their later years.
Alexis is a super go-getter and is a busy young mom with a fun business selling fun jewelry. Please check out the links below if you are looking for some interesting pieces as gifts for a loved one or yourself.
Alexis’ email is [email protected]
The web is https://paparazziaccessories.com/409101/