EP – 107 Teaching Gratitude

Our monthly one-on-one conversation

This week’s conversation is about how we, as Grandfathers, can help our grandchildren develop a spirit of gratitude. This is a short conversation (since it is Thanksgiving weekend), but if there is a good nugget here. I think you can use it with your family and grandchildren.

I borrowed much of this information from a fantastic talk my wife, Karen, gave at our church. I figured that she had some good stuff, so why change it?

Teaching grandchildren to have a spirit of gratitude creates a firebreak in the lives of those who adopt that spirit. A firebreak is a physical barrier created to prevent fire from spreading.

Gratitude can create a barrier against the spread of negative thoughts and emotions. Gratitude doesn’t prevent negativity from coming into our lives but can prevent negativity from running wild.

Here are three things you can do to help grandchildren develop a spirit of gratitude:

  1. When they are young, ask them what made them happy today.
  2. Ask them what they are thankful for that day when they are older.
  3. When they hit the early to mid-teenage years, you can start to ask them what they are grateful for.

These questions are based on the grandchild’s development and what they can relate to as the concepts become more abstract. Below is a great graphic on the positive side effects of developing a grateful mindset.

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Links

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EP – 104 Grandparenting 101

Our conversation with Richard Eyre

Richard Eyre is back to talk about a new program he and his wife, Linda, have created called Grandparenting 101. Richard was previously on the podcast to talk about his book, “Being A Proactive Grandfather.” You can listen to that conversation by clicking on the link below.

Linda and Richard have created a six-part course to help grandparents navigate this evolving role of being a Grandparent. Grandparents today seek guidance and support on maximizing their impact with their multi-generational family. With few books and resources available, Grandparenting 101 is a fantastic resource where Richard and Linda help to guide grandparents through important topics such as:

  • The Higher Perspective, Priority, and Paradigm of More Effective Grandparenting. (Examining the roles and priorities of being a grandparent)
  • Grandparenting Goals and Roles (by age)
  • Deep Life Relationships with Individual Grandkids
  • Smart Support (How and when to provide financial support)
  • Values and Faith
  • Being the Link and the Trunk (You are the link between the grandchildren and their ancestors)

You will enjoy listening to how the course was inspired and how it has helped bring together experts in this new and growing field of Grandparenting.

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Link

Click HERE to find out more and to sign up for Grandparenting 101.

You can listen to the previous conversation that Richard and I had about his book, “Being A Proactive Grandfather,” by clicking HERE.

To check out and purchase Richard’s book, “Being A Proactive Grandfather,” click HERE to order the book from Amazon.

Also, check out Richard and Linda’s podcast, “Eyres on the Road.”

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EP – 102 Bullying is a Tangled Ball

Our conversation with Susan Raisch

Susan Raisch joins our conversation today about bullying and how grandparents can be a resource in identifying and resolving children dealing with bullying. We discuss the difference between what is just a bad interaction and what experiences are actual bullying encounters.

Susan explains that there are three main points to bullying vs. a bad interaction with another youth or adult. Those three main points are:

  1. Is the interaction intentional?
  2. Is the exchange repeated?
  3. Does the interaction create an imbalance of power?

We discuss how grandparents can be an important resource in identifying when a grandchild is being bullied by communicating with the grandchild and being the trusted adult that the grandchild needs in their life. More than half of all children involved with bullying do not tell an adult about the challenge they are facing. Susan talks about how listening is the most effective action that grandparents can do when identifying and dealing with children being bullied.

You will want to listen to this critical conversation several times to digest all the great information Susan shares about bullying.

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Link

Click HERE to visit the Tangled Ball website and resources. Remember to check out the merchandise designated to help the people of Ukraine.

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EP – 101 Humor is Where the Heart is

Our conversation with Lee Gaitan

Had a bad bounce in life? Have you ever struggled to explain to a four-year-old grandchild that a cheese sandwich cut diagonally tastes EXACTLY the same as one cut down the middle? This week’s guest, Lee Gaitan, has had those same experiences.

My good friend Lee sits down with us to share her experience of being a grandmother, a mother, a wife, a teacher, and most importantly (in my book), a funny person. We discuss her reaction to learning that she would be a grandmother for the first time. Lee shares with us her story of running around an empty college building to find someone, anyone, to share the good news of her becoming a grandmother.

Lee and I also discuss the importance of pulling out the humor lens when looking at life’s everyday decisions and when you experience what Lee calls ‘a bad bounce’. We talk about the importance of writing down the funny and humorous moments in our lives as a way of passing on our story and our family’s stories of the good times, bad times, and funny times.

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Links

Click HERE to visit Lee’s Website.

Click HERE to enjoy our mutual friend, Jerry Zezima, who also discusses finding humor in our everyday lives.

Click HERE to learn more about Erma Bombeck

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Bonus – Halloween Fun with the Grandkids

Our conversation with Uncle Rog

Ever wonder who those people go over the top at Halloween and have the best home haunt in the neighborhood? Meet Nationally recognized home haunt and prop designer expert Roger Hayes.

Order your drink and pull up a chair so you can join my conversation with Roger as we catch up about all things Halloween. Rog is an old friend with whom I have had many adventures. Some adventures we even tell our wives about. So, come on, pull up a chair, and join us for some great conversation.

Roger and I cover basic grandkid costumes and general trick-or-treat safety with the grandkids. BTW, Roger prefers makeup to masks. Roger also talks about how grandpas can give the neighborhood and community haunted house the ‘stiff test’ for fun and SAFETY before taking the little grand ghosts and grand goblins through a home haunt.

You would be surprised about the little details that can tip you off too if the home haunt is safe, professional, and likely to be an enjoyable experience for the grandkids.

Roger and I also discuss a few arts and crafts projects grandpas can do with the grandkids. These arts and crafts projects can become a cool tradition that the kiddos get to do with grandpa each fall. We both agree that the artifacts the kids make will become treasured memories of their time spent with their Cool Grandpa.

Roger is super talented, as you will see when you visit his website and view the pictures below. All of the artwork that you see is original and comes from the genius of Roger’s mind.

Here are the links to Roger’s site and some cool pictures of Uncle Rog’s tombstone work.

Links

Hayes Haunt

Roger’s Halloween Coloring Book

Hayes Haunt YouTube Video

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EP – 100th Episode

Our time to catch up and celebrate

Well, it was bound to happen. This is my 100th episode of The Cool Grandpa Podcast!

In trying to think about what to do for my 100th show, I thought about putting together a collection of stories from past interviews. I had even thought about making the whole show just kind of a party by having some of the previous guests on to chat about where they are now in their Grandpa journey or what they have learned since our last conversation.

Neither of those other options seemed right to me, so I thought I would invite my good friend, Russell Wynne, to the show to interview me. I thought this would be a good way to catch new listeners on how and why I started the podcast. It would also let the audience know more about my road map for this Cool Granpa website and The Cool Grandpa podcast.

If you have been a long-time sufferer…er I mean, listener, thank you for your patience and support. If you are a newer listener, thanks for joining our fun and informative conversation.

I have included links below to Russell’s episode. I have also included links to Steve Owen’s and Erik K Johnson’s websites. I encourage you to check out their podcasts and to reach out to Erik if you are thinking of starting a podcast or if you could use some help in fine-tuning your existing podcast.

Once again, thank you to each of the podcast listeners and especially to all the guests I have had on the show. YOUR support and encouragement are what have made this journey so wonderful.

After you have listened to this episode, please remember to like and subscribe to the show if you haven’t already. It would also be fantastic if you would share this podcast with a friend. Sharing is the best way to help me spread the word about the importance of grandfathers in the lives of their grandchildren and families.

Links

Click HERE to listen to Russell’s conversation with me back on episode 8

Click HERE to listen to Steve Owens’ Fascination Street Podcast

Click HERE to visit Erik K Johnson’s website, Podcast Talent Coach

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EP – 99 Favorite Grampy

Our conversation with Manny Oliverez

Manny Oliverez is on a mission to be THE FAVORITE GRAMPY. Manny is someone who didn’t grow up with his grandfathers setting an example about what a grandpa should or shouldn’t do. This left Manny with a clean slate to create the types of relationships he wanted with his grandchildren.

We discuss Manny’s reaction to hearing the news that he would become a grandfather for the first time. Hearing that news started exploring what it would take to become a grandchild’s favorite grampy. Manny shares with us how for him, being a favorite grampy is a combination of creativity, opening yourself up to acting like a kid, and sometimes setting the rules aside.

Another big part of being a favorite grampy is to create opportunities for adventures. Adventures can come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Manny shares with us an adventure he and his grandchildren took in the backyard where they encountered deer that an Oger had frozen and the dark spooky path that would take them to the brink of danger. Other adventures come in the form of trips to Disney, Universal, and other theme parks.

This pursuit of family-friendly, skip-generational adventures has led Manny’s daughter to start Favorite Grampy Travels. The focus of Favorite Grampy Travels is to help other families create these magical, once-in-a-lifetime memories with all members of the family. Check out the links below to Favorite Grampy Travels and see if they can help you schedule your next adventure with the family.

After you have listened to this episode, please remember to like and subscribe to the show if you haven’t already. It would also be fantastic if you would share this podcast with a friend. Sharing is the best way to help me spread the word about the importance of grandfathers in the lives of their grandchildren and families.

Links

Click HERE to visit Manny’s Favorite Grampy website.

Here is the link to Manny’s interview with the Adventures with Grammy podcast. Click HERE to listen to that great interview.

To check out Manny and the family’s good times, you can click HERE to follow Manny on Facebook.

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Click HERE to follow Manny on Pinterest.

If you are looking for a great theme park or travel experience, let Manny and his family over at Favorite Grampy Travel take care of your needs. You and find your Favorite Grampy Travel by clicking HERE.

Click HERE to find the books that Manny has available on Amazon.

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EP – 98 What Makes Grandfathers Unique?

Our conversation with Dr. Abby Stephan

Dr. Abby Stephan had a unique experience as a youngster because she had an actual multi-generational household. This experience is unique because most of us in North America live with just parents and children and not with grandparents. This family environment is not the norm for a lot of families in the world. Often, those family units include the grandparents in the household structure.

Within this context, Abby grew to appreciate the role of grandparents within the family structure. Abby shares with us some great stories of her relationships with her grandparents growing up and how she maintains those active connections to this day.

Abby shares with us many of the findings of her Inter-Generational research. We discuss the unique role that grandfathers, in particular, play in the family unit. I also asked Abby many questions about what she discovered about how grandfathers feel about the position and the lasting impact of grandfathers on the lives and development of grandchildren.

You will be in for a treat with this conversation, and be sure to check out the link to the summary of Abby’s findings with her study. After talking with Abby, I believe more than ever that if grandparents and grandfathers, in particular, become active in the grandparent and grandchild relationship, our futures can be bright and meaningful.

After you have listened to this episode, please remember to like and subscribe to the show if you haven’t already. It would also be fantastic if you would share this podcast with a friend. Sharing is the best way to help me spread the word about the importance of grandfathers in the lives of their grandchildren and families.

Links

Click HERE to read Abby’s summary of her Ph.D. research

Click HERE to visit Abby’s website

Click HERE to check out Abby’s LinkedIn Profile

Click HERE to view Abby’s Twitter feed

Click HERE to connect with Abby on Instagram

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EP – 97 Grandparents Day

This is our monthly one-on-one.

Welcome into this pre-Grandparents Day conversation. The conversation is a bit short this week, but I am calling out a few things to remember about being a Grandfather and Grandparent.

First, not every relationship will be exactly like we would like it to be if your relationship is not where you want it to be with your adult child, spouse, partner, or even your grandchild. Do an assessment and be truthful about some of the things you might be doing to create friction in that relationship and then address those items.

BUT remember that sometimes the cause of friction or strain on a relationship MIGHT NOT be your doing. Remember that the growth and maintenance of a relationship is a two-way street; sometimes, the other person may need to make some course correction or effort to have a relationship with you. Whatever the case is, I AM NOT suggesting that you abandon your boundaries or your beliefs but rather do an inventory and see if you could have had a misstep that requires you to humble yourself to heal the relationship.

Second, remember that most of us Grandpas only want to share the good stuff, not the challenges we are going through with our relations. This isn’t an action that anyone should take as being dishonest but rather understand that most of us want to keep our ‘business’ to ourselves or within the family.

So, if you are talking to your friends or viewing social media, remember that they may be having similar challenges but keep that information behind their walls. If you want to be bold, be honest with your close friends and family about your struggles and challenges. Share appropriately, but I bet dollars to doughts that if you open yourself up and be venerable with your close associates, you might find hidden sources of wisdom and compassion that you didn’t know existed.

Finally, let’s remember to take September 11 and celebrate being a Grandpa and Grandparent. YOU have traveled a long and winding road to get to this point. Celebrate that you are old enough to be a grandparent and have had a long and rich experience to get you here. So, this Grandparents Day, go ahead, take a victory lap. YOU have earned it!

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Links

Click HERE to order your copy of Rudder of the Day: Stories & Wisdom to Kick Start Your Workday.

Click HERE to sign up for a membership to The Long Distance Grandparent Society.

Click HERE to register for the week-long event that Grandparents Academy hosts from September 11-17.

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Click Here to sign up for Grandparents 101. The first session is on Sept 8, so sign up today!

EP – 96 Being a Role Model

Our conversation with James Lott, Jr.

Grandpa Jammie is back for another great conversation. In this conversation, we pick up where we left off the conversation we had on James’s YouTube channel, “Really! I’m a Grandparent.”

About a couple of months ago, James had me on his show talking about the importance of male role models. (That conversation is available by clicking on this link and the one below) In that conversation, we started diving into why it is important for grandfathers to step up and be good role models for their grandchildren. We discussed how children look to grandfathers as examples of how older men work and live.

This conversation continues that line of thought that grandfathers are needed to not only be examples but also help the grandchildren transition through the stages of development from young children to teens and then to young adults. James shares a powerful story of how his grandmother would share a drink with the grandchildren when they turned 21. The experience wasn’t about the drink but about reaching an age where his grandmother sat the grandchild down and discussed life, where the younger grandchild was heading, and what dreams they had.

After you have listened to this episode, please remember to like and subscribe to the show if you haven’t already. It would also be fantastic if you would share this podcast with a friend. Sharing is the best way to help me spread the word about the importance of grandfathers in the lives of their grandchildren and families.

Links

Click HERE to access JLJ Media on YouTube

Click HERE to watch my last conversation on “Really! I’m a Grandparent.”

Click HERE to follow James on Instagram

Click HERE to follow James on Facebook

Click HERE to support James on Buy Me a Coffee

Click HERE to check out JLJmedia’s Artist Shop

Click HERE to register for the week-long event that Grandparents Academy hosts from September 11-17.

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Click Here to sign up for Grandparents 101. The first session is on Sept 8, so sign up today!