EP – 86 Where Two Worlds Meet

Our conversation with Jerry Witkovsky and Deanna Shoss

This week we are joined by two passionate individuals whose goal is to build bridges of understanding and communication between Grandparents and Grandchildren. Jerry Witkovsky and Deanna Shoss join us to discuss their new book, Where Two Worlds Meet.

Jerry joins our conversation as a leader in developing organizations and programs that impact the lives of his community. Since his 1997 retirement, Jerry has focused his considerable energies on grandparenting facilitation—helping multigenerational families work (and play) together to create a rich family life. He has partnered with JCC and YMCA to create a writing prompt program serving over four hundred grandparents on three continents and a virtual improv program with UK’s Nursery Theatre. He currently spearheads many school-based programs designed to strengthen connections between grandparents and their teenagers.

Deanna Shoss is a marketer, writer, and interculturalist based in Chicago. As Founder and CEO of Intercultural Talk, Inc., Deanna inspires people to learn, create, and contribute across their lifespans. She takes an intergenerational approach that combines online communication platforms such as websites/blogs, social media, and video with tried and true practices such as partnership building, email marketing, and in-person events. Deanna writes for the National Diversity Council and is the Tech Columnist for Grand Magazine. She speaks Portuguese, Spanish, and French and is a certified group fitness instructor. Learn more at interculturaltalk.com.

In our conversation, we discussed what motivated Jerry to write his book and how he and Deanna became connected and are working hard to deliver this timely message of getting grandparents engaged with their grandchildren. We also discuss how grandparents can be a part of the solution in helping grandchildren through complex mental and emotional issues.

Where Two Worlds Meet is an enjoyable read full of fantastic tips and examples that will help you become more intentional and involved with your grandchildren, please follow the links above and below to learn more about the work that Jerry and Deanna are doing and to order your copy of Where Two Worlds Meet.

If you know someone who would enjoy hearing this conversation, please forward this podcast episode to them. Sharing episodes like this one is the best way to help others learn about Grandfathers’ critical role in their families lives. Please remember to ‘like’ and subscribe to the podcast if you haven’t done so already.

Links

Click HERE to go to the website for Where Two Worlds Meet

Click HERE to read the article, Why American Teens Are So Sad

Click HERE to visit Deanna’s company Intercultural Talk

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EP – 79 Meet the Grandchildren Where They Are

Our conversation with Ed Gaffney

Our conversation this week is with Ed Gaffney. We talked with Ed a few episodes ago about RVing with grandchildren. (The link to that conversation is in the links below.) Ed shares with us how he and his wife Jeanne found out that they would be grandparents at a Billy Joel and Elton John concert.

Ed shares his experience with integrating his family with Jeanne’s to form a blended family. We learn through Ed’s stories how the children adapted to each other a bit faster than the other family members. We also learn how Ed and Jeanne stay connected with their grandchildren through on-site visits, Twitter, Facebook Messenger, and other technology tools.

Once you have listened to this conversation, share it with a friend who would enjoy listening to this episode and might need encouragement with their relationships.

Be sure to leave Ed and me a comment below about what you enjoyed about this episode.

Links

Click HERE to check out the episode with Ed and his wife, Jeanne

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EP – 72 Collateral Influence

Our conversation with Armando Garcia

Armando Garcia is this week’s guest. Armando and I discuss his relationship with his six young grandchildren. We talk about how Armando is using his life experience and his experience as a 48 Days and Zigler certified coach to help his grandchildren learn and interpret the world around them.

Armando discusses how he has implemented a book club with his grandchildren where he incentivizes them to read classic books about motivation, money, and life. Armando talks about how he starts the book club reasonably early in their life and then tappers it off as they grow older, and the habit of reading uplifting books has already taken hold.

We get into a fun conversation about how Armando also presents each of the grandchildren (boy or girl) with a pocket knife when they are old enough to be responsible for the tool. Armando and I talk about how important it is to have milestones in a young person’s life to leave one stage behind and move into a new chapter with added responsibilities and privileges.

You are going to enjoy all the stories and wisdom that Armando shares about his experience with being a grandpa, a youth sports coach, and a parent to his adult children. Please share with us what your favorite takeaway was with this conversation. Also, be sure to check out all the links below and connect with Armando.

Links

Click HERE to visit Armando’s Facebook Page

Click HERE to visit Armando’s coaching website, On Target Achievement

Click HERE to view Armando’s LinkedIn profile

Click HERE to be taken to Dave Wadsworth’s book, Living in the Ditch: 1 Ditch 2 Boys and 3000 adventures

Click HERE to listen to my conversation with Dave Wadsworth

Click HERE to visit Dan Miller’s 48 Days community

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EP – 70 Living in the same neighborhood

Our conversation with Greg Vance

This conversation is with Greg Vance. Greg shares all the changes he had going on when the first grandchildren came along. We discussed how Greg was leaving corporate life and was building his coaching and consulting business. Greg discusses the changes in habits and lifestyle that were happening in the few years leading to welcoming in their first grandchild.

We discuss Greg’s relationship with his young grandchildren and grandchildren living within the same neighborhood. Greg talks about the logistics of keeping toys, clothes, and the important stuffed animals all squared away between two close homes. Greg compares his relationship with his grandparents, who lived about 20 minutes away from him growing up, to his relationship with his grandchildren.

You will enjoy Greg’s insights and delightful stories about being a grandparent. Be sure to check out Greg’s website (link below) to learn even more about Greg and connect with him.

Click HERE to visit Greg’s website, Career Meets Purpose.

Click HERE to visit Greg’s LinkedIn profile

Click HERE to connect with Greg on Twitter

Click HERE to connect with Greg on Facebook

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EP – 68 Old Breed General – Bonus Show

Our conversation with Kim, Heather, and Amy about their Grandfather, Gen. Rupertus

This is a bonus episode. The episode is part two of my interview about Maj. General Rupertus, USMC. In this episode, Heather, Kim, and Amy join me to talk about their extraordinary grandfather. Amy and Don Brown‘s book about Major General Rupertus, Old Breed General, is now out and available for purchase. Not only is it now available for purchase, BUT it is in its second printing BEFORE the first run has been released.

After many years, Amy and her sister’s hard work has been rewarded by releasing their book about their grandfather. This episode is part of a two-part series about a passion for connecting to an ancestor and the desire to “fill in the blanks” in the Marine Corps and United States history.

We learn all about William H. Rupertus in this fun and informative conversation. Heather, Kim, and Amy take us on an exciting journey into their grandfather’s life. They share with us the fun times, the hard times, and their grandfather’s perseverance in this conversation. We learn firsthand from his loving granddaughters how he served his country, lost his first family in his country’s service, and then led the First Marine Division during the early years of the War in the Pacific.

If you haven’t heard the first episode, I strongly recommend that you go back and listen to it. Click Here for the link to that first episode (26). In the first episode, we spend a lot of time going over the sisters’ motivation to dive into their grandfather’s story and connect with him even though they never met him.

You can find many of the sisters’ helpful links to researching and documenting their grandfather’s experience in the first episode’s show notes (Click Here). Be sure to check out the links that we now have for book orders, Amy’s Author Page, and many other resources about an essential American Hero.

@MajGenRupertus – Twitter

Click HERE to be taken to Amy’s Author Page to learn more about Amy and the incredible work she is engaged in.

Amy’s Facebook group – Discovering My Grandfather MajorGen. William H. Rupertus, USMC

Click HERE to be taken to Don Brown’s Author Page to learn more about Don and the many projects that he has and is working on.

Click on the image above to purchase your copy of Old Breed General

Below is an interview with Major General Rupertus

Interview with Major General Rupertus. Major General Rupertus’ remarks start at 17.39
The Rifleman’s Creed – Author Major General Rupertus
A young William Rupertus
1st Marine Div. Commander Gen. Rupertus is pointing out something on the map to the Army’s Gen. MacArthur, Maj. Gen. Chamberlain and Lt. Walter Krueger

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EP – 66 Grandparents and Meaningful Traditions

Our conversation with Rebecca Fraser-Thill

Rebecca Fraser-Thill joins us to talk about grandfathers, multi-generational relationships, and the importance of traditions within the family. We are introduced to Rebecca’s grandfather, Raymond Green, who lived about a half-hour from Rebecca. Although Rebecca talks about having a stronger bond with her grandmother, Raymond played an essential role in her life. They both enjoyed feeding the birds, spending the night at Grandma’s and Grandpa’s house, and being silly together.

We then talk about Rebecca’s relationship between her children and her father. Rebecca shares how her daughter pulls out characteristics of her father that he usually does not let out so much. Rebecca’s son and her father share many characteristic traits, such as becoming very focused on technical and engineering challenges.

Towards the end of our conversation, Rebecca and I discuss the role of traditions within the family. Some of the many benefits that family traditions have are:

  1. A sense of belonging
  2. Creating and re-enforcing identity
  3. Creates stability and expectations within the family
  4. Develops positive emotions among the participants
  5. It is useful in creating multi-generational memories and bonds

Links

Click HERE to visit Rebecca’s website and learn more about her.

Click HERE to read Rebecca’s article, “How Family Traditions Build Stronger Bonds..”

Click HERE for the book we discussed, “In Good Faith: Secular Parenting in a Religious World.”

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EP – 65 Grandpa was One of Three Heroes

Our conversation with Kent Julian

Renowned keynote speaker Kent Julian sits down with us to talk about one of his three heroes, Enoch Marshall. Kent shares how they were opposites in many ways, yet he was drawn to Enoch. When Kent thinks about and describes his grandfather, the word that comes to mind is WISDOM.

We discuss how Kent’s grandfather was there as Kent’s spiritual awakening began in middle and high school. Kent talks about how his grandfather became that person that provided Kent with guidance as it was needed.

As we continue discussing the influence of Enoch on Kent, we learn that the other two heroes in Kent’s life were a teacher and youth pastor. The three of them helped to turn Kent as an “at-risk youth” into a young man who grew closer to his faith and turned his life around. Kent talks about how his grandfather just seemed to have the right timing and accessibility to talk to Kent about spiritual matters and life.

We also talk a bit about the myth about quality time vs. quantity time. To Kent, quality time is what the receiver gets through quantity time. For example, shooting baskets in the driveway might be quantity time until a critical topic is brought up by the grandson or granddaughter, and then, that activity shifts to quality time.

Kent and I also talk about how grandfathers and others can get into the speaking game if they feel they have a message to share. We discuss how speaking could be a side hustle, something for fun, or a full-time gig, depending on what you want to get out of speaking. To learn more about getting into the speaking game, check out the links below to Kent’s site.

Please remember to like and share this podcast with someone you know who needs to hear the message about how important grandfathers are in the lives of grandchildren and families.

Links

Click HERE to learn even more about Kent

Click HERE to learn Kent’s 9 Ways to Get Paid as a Speaker

Click HERE to go to Kent’s Paid to Speak Podcast website

Click HERE to the Paid To Speak Conference that Kent and I briefly discussed

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EP – 64 Being A Proactive Grandfather

Our conversation with Richard Eyre

In this conversation, we are joined by Richard Eyre. Richard and his wife Linda have been writing and speaking about values-based parenting for over 20 years. Richard has taken his experience and insight with parenting and created a great book about being a proactive grandfather. With over 34 grandchildren, Richard has had experience with building deep and meaningful relationships with grandchildren both near and far.

Our discussion talks about the four different types or versions of grandfathers and which one is most rewarding for the grandfather and the grandchildren. Those four types are:

  1. Disengaged
  2. Limited
  3. Supportive
  4. Proactive

Richard and I also discuss the different roles that grandfathers play in the lives of their grandchildren as those grandchildren grow and develop.

Ensure that you check out the links to Ricard’s book and website below. You are sure to enjoy and benefit from Richard’s resources to offer grandfathers and parents alike.

Links

Click HERE to be taken to Richard’s website, Values Parenting

Click HERE to view Richard’s book, Being a Proactive Grandfather

Click HERE to listen to the podcast episode for Leave Nothing Unsaid with Jody Noland

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EP – 59 Being An Engaged Grandpa

Our conversation with Rich “Tabasco” Tedesco

Our conversation is with Tabasco. Tabasco sits down with us to discuss his experience of being a grandfather who lives close to his grandchildren. In this exciting conversation, we talk about how Tabasco how hearing the news that he would be a grandfather was like starting a new chapter in his life and a chance to share the world with another child.

We continue to talk about how Tabasco could focus on the grandchild and block out worldly distractions. Tabasco shares with us how to enjoy the early years and not rush them to grow up. As we dive into our conversation further, Tacasco talks about how important it is to make sure that the parents have the opportunity to experience the “firsts” with their children.

Be sure to check out the links below for more information about Tabasco and the fantastic career and wisdom he has to share.

Once you have listened to this conversation, be sure to share it with a friend.

Links

Tabasco’s interview from Military.com

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EP – 57 A Grandfather’s Strength

Our conversation with Dave Evans

This week’s conversation is with Dave Evans. Dave and I sit down to talk about his experience with being a grandfather. We talk a lot about his granddaughter Nyia and her challenges. During Nyia’s delivery, she went without oxygen for about 12 minutes resulting in Nyia having extensive brain and motor issues.

Nyia and her family are working with the great people at NAPA on an individual therapy plan to help Nyia learn to do as much for herself as possible. As you can imagine, Nyia relies on the therapists’ support and care, her loving parents, and her supportive grandparents.

Dave and I discuss his reaction to the news of what happened to Nyia during delivery and how he could be a valuable support to Nyia’s parents in the days and months after Nyia’s birth. We also talk about how Nyia is doing now and how Dave reads to Nyia, pushes her in the swing, and writes music with Nyia. Dave also shares how he has taken the following scripture to heart to describe what it is to be a grandfather.

“Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;” – Colossians 3:12

Join us for this touching conversation about how grandfathers can play an important part in supporting the family through tough times. You will also want to hear how Nyia is growing stronger and doing many more activities with the help of Dave, Nyia’s family, and caregivers.

At the end of our conversation, you will get a chuckle out of the story that Dave provides about his grandfather going the extra mile back in the 1960s by taking Dave to a rock and roll show.

Once you have listened and enjoyed the show, please share Dave’s story with someone who could use some inspiration about how important grandfathers are in strengthening the family. If you would like to get in touch with Dave, please shoot me an email at greg@cool-grandpa.com, and I will share your thoughts with Dave.

Links

NAPA

Click HERE to listen to the conversation with Ralph Jodice

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